Why do you want THEIR life?

So why, exactly, are you comparing yourself and your life to someone else? Do you REALLY want THEIR life?

It’s pretty easy for us to look at someone else’s results and say, “Yeah, I want that!” But that’s only part of the story. You don’t know the in’s and out’s that it took for them to get there. You don’t know what they gave up to have what they have. But most importantly, YOU’RE NOT THEM! What motivated them to reach for this goal may not even be on your radar!

When you compare yourself to others you tend to compare the most negative version of yourself against an idealized version of them. When you do that, of course you’re going to come out on the short end of the stick!

But why are you worried about them in the first place? Why don’t you come up with your own idealized outcome and start working toward that! The great thing about the world we live in today is that you can literally dream up just about anything and make it your reality! Heck, Elon Musk wants to live on Mars… so he’s working on it! Will he achieve it? Who knows…and who cares! If he finds his joy doing his art trying to get to Mars, he’ll be a happy guy.

So what is YOUR Big Hairy Audacious Goal? What’s that one thing that you want more than anything and you’re reluctant to share with anyone else? That’s your BHAG, and if you have a need for comparison, compare yourself today to yourself yesterday and the progress you’ve made toward that BHAG!

Leave a comment, let me know what your BHAG is!

I Know Why You Haven’t Started Yet!

Yep, that’s right… I know why you haven’t started yet…and so do you!

You’ve convinced yourself that you’re doing the “responsible” thing by studying, gathering more information, and making sure all the i’s are dotted and t’s are crossed. Oh, and you just found another book or YouTube video about it that you need to read, then watch, then study the differences to figure out … I can’t even finish typing that sentence!

The reality is you’re afraid, but not afraid of failure. No, we all fail, every day. Sometimes in big, spectacular way but more often in small almost insignificant ways that have a funny way of training us!

No, you’re not afraid of failure… you’re afraid of the perceived ego shot that would go along with failure! PRIDE is keeping you from stepping out and playing your role in the universe! PRIDE!

“But Thom, you don’t understand…I have a lot to lose if I get this wrong.” I’m sure you do! In fact, that’s EXACTLY WHY you NEED to step out. Do it! Don’t jump in the baby end of the pool, hit that deep water that will challenge you. (Because it’s that challenge that makes the whole thing worth it…but that’s for another day!)

Stop letting your pride deprive the rest of us of the art your unique set of talents and gifts are intended to create! Your being selfish…stop it! Stop asking “What else do I need?” and start asking “What if I did!”

When you’re ready to get off the bench and make great things happen, DM me. I will help!

PS – Today’s quote comes to us from none other than THE @JockoWillink, “Stop researching every aspect of it and reading all about it and debating the pros and cons of it…Start doing it”

But What If You Could?

But what if you could?

Those are magical words…no matter what the obstacle, constraint, or impediment, those five magic words just sweep all that aside and give your mind the room and freedom it craves to imagine the possibilities!

Want to start your own business…but what if you could?

Want to create a non-profit to help communities in need…but what if you could?

Want to quit your job and live on a sandy beach somewhere…but what if you could?

What’s your “impossible dream”? Share it in the comments! I’d love to hear what you’re dreaming about doing…if you could!

Free Coaching Friday – April 26, 2019

Every Friday morning Business and Lifestyle Strategist Thom Rigsby takes YOUR questions and answers them during Free Coaching Friday!

Today’s question comes from Keith, “What advice would you give the 18-year-old version of yourself?”

Great question and one I’ve actually discussed on Instagram (@ThomRigsby) this week! Have a listen to see what I suggest.

Enjoy!

Why Is This So Hard?

Have you ever caught yourself asking why things are so hard? Why can’t just one thing in your life be easy? What if it’s just perspective?

“Don’t wish it were easier, wish you were better.”

Jim Rohn

Whether your thing is baseball, video games, or cooking, there’s been a time when you really wanted to accomplish something big but the obstacles were just too great. Like learning to ride your bike. You master the tricycle then all of a sudden this “big kid” bike only has two wheels. When you look at it like that, it’s a hard thing to master…but bicycle racers have done it.

See, the reality is that you can learn to do just about anything and that learning is made easier by your perspective, your mindset! If you think it will be difficult bordering on the impossible, then it will be. If you think it will be easy after a little practice, again, it will be. It’s all in how you look at it.

So when you face a challenge, something that makes you think about quitting, before you declare the task impossible, check yourself. Ask what you can learn or practice more to become good enough to achieve the impossible!

Everything IS Possible!

You believe that your options are limited. Maybe you believe that the only choice you have is the one that’s already been made for you. You are wrong!

“Everything you can imagine is real.”

Pablo Picasso

The reality is that anything you can conceive with your mind, you can make a reality in your life…you just have to change the constraints! Want to fly private on your next vacation but can’t afford your own jet? No problem, rent one…take a dead-leg…

MAKE THE CHOICE TO MAKE IT HAPPEN!

Choosing and then focusing on the outcome is the key. If this seems unrealistic to you, it’s because you are allowing yourself to be limited by the steps, dare I say obstacles, between you and your desired outcome.

So many times I talk with business owners and leaders in my private coaching practice that are limiting themselves, their company and ultimately their success because they can’t focus on the outcome. Instead, they are allowing their vision to become blinded by the things they see as obstacles instead of stepping stones.

When you begin to focus on the outcome rather than the steps, the size and quantity of the steps begin to shrink. Instead of huge boulders blocking your road, they become gravel paving it! Stop focusing on the rocks, start focusing on the prize, and enjoy the journey!

Change Your Thinking – Change Your Results

Do you feel that the outcome for your day is outside your control? Maybe it starts under your control but eventually, it succumbs to the demands of others. This is the thinking that got you here. If you want to stay where you are, keep thinking that way. But if you want more, if you want to find and do work that matters…read on.

The reality is that YOU control the outcome of your day. Every decision point is an opportunity to choose between a positive interpretation and a negative interpretation. How you choose will dictate how you feel. And how you feel now will impact how you feel going into the next decision.

So, each morning set an intention of what you will be and how you will feel today. Write it down, say it out loud, write it on your mirror. Then attack the day knowing that nothing will knock you off course from a GREAT day!

Choose to Win

Every day we are faced with hundreds maybe thousands of choices and it is how we choose to respond to those sets of circumstances that will create our day and life. Choose wisely! On today’s installment of 7 Minutes in the Morning, we talk about how to make that choice and why it is so important! Enjoy! Thom, THE Unashamed Non-Conformist =-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-= Thom Rigsby is a lifestyle & business strategy expert. Drawing on his experience as a small business owner and entrepreneur launching almost a dozen startups and more than 25 years of business experience, Thom brings his creativity and “Non-Conformist” approach to entrepreneurship and getting results for you and your small business! So, whether you are looking for answers to your small business questions, time management tips, need a comprehensive business strategy or just craving some work-life balance, following Thom’s exclusive personal development plan you can letting life happen to you and begin to create the life you crave with your very own small business. Be sure to connect with Thom… …on Facebook http://www.facebook.com/thomrigsbycoaching …on YouTube http://www.youtube.com/thomrigsby …and on Instagram http://www.Instagram.com/thomrigsby Become a part of the Work That Matters Facebook group at http://fb.com/groups/workthatmatters Thom is available for one-on-one coaching and as a motivational speaker on topics including peak performance, how to plan, personal development, success, and work-life balance to the mindset of wealth and success. Contact Thom at www.ThomRigsby.com for more details.

The Rat Race

Every day we have the chance to make hundreds, maybe thousands, of decisions. And the cumulative result of all our decisions creates our life, lifestyle, and lifetime!

Face each opportunity as just that, an opportunity. Even if your work requires you to deal with angry people, you can choose to be happy, entertained even, in the face of their frustration. Who knows, maybe the happy smile or understanding tone in your voice is just what THEY need to hear so they can have a happy day as well.

And how to do make that kind of choice? Well, for that you’ll have to listen to or watch the full installment of 7 Minutes In the Morning!

Choose to Win – 7 Minutes in the Morning – 22 Apr 2019

The problem with the rat race is, even if you win, you’re still a rat.

Lilly Tomlin
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=w-d49fA6vgs

Who Runs Your Day?


Enjoy! Thom, THE Unashamed Non-Conformist PS: Here’s the link to the Patreon page where you can become a supporter of the show! Find out more at http://www.Patreon.com/ThomRigsby =-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-= Thom Rigsby is a lifestyle & business strategy expert. Drawing on his experience as a small business owner and entrepreneur launching almost a dozen startups and more than 25 years of business experience, Thom brings his creativity and “Non-Conformist” approach to entrepreneurship and getting results for you and your small business! So, whether you are looking for answers to your small business questions, time management tips, need a comprehensive business strategy or just craving some work-life balance, following Thom’s exclusive personal development plan you can letting life happen to you and begin to create the life you crave with your very own small business. Be sure to connect with Thom… …on Facebook http://www.facebook.com/thomrigsbycoaching …on YouTube http://www.youtube.com/thomrigsby …and on Instagram http://www.Instagram.com/thomrigsby Become a part of the Work That Matters Facebook group at http://fb.com/groups/workthatmatters Thom is available for one-on-one coaching and as a motivational speaker on topics including peak performance, how to plan, personal development, success, and work-life balance to the mindset of wealth and success. Contact Thom at www.ThomRigsby.com for more details.
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